May 2013
Public Service Announcement: “rape” is not a synonym for every fucking mundane occurrence you happen to suffer. You were not “raped” by your test. You have not been “raped” when you lose your sports game, and it isn’t “rape” when your best friend tries to hug you.
Maybe take a step back and think about what the hell you’re actually saying before you trivialize something so devastating.
FACTS ABOUT THINGS:
- TUMBLR WAS GETTING TOO EXPENSIVE. THEIR OPTIONS WERE TO EITHER SELL IT OR SHUT IT DOWN.
- YAHOO SAYS THEY’RE GOING TO LET IT RUN AS AN INDEPENDENT BUSINESS. IN THEORY, NOTHING WILL CHANGE EXCEPT FOR WHO’S LEGALLY OWNING IT.
- NOW EVERYONE CALM DOWN.
They HAVE said they are going to “integrate new features” sooo… There’s that. They’ve already announced they’re going to be adding some yahooyness into Tumblr… I’m just waiting to see if it gets terrible or not.
[TW Self Harm]
I once had a guy tell me i could “do better” when he met my girlfriend. She’s struggled with depression and self harm for years.
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tumblr:
you’re really not being that oppressed by dress codes
you can’t wear a shirt that makes visible your stomach/bra/etc. if you’re working in virtually all professional environments, why the fuck should you be able to in high school?
also what high schools did you go…
At my private high school, the men’s dress code included three things and no more: shirts must be tucked into pants, short hair, clean shaven.
The girl’s dress code was TWO PAGES LONG. Everything from hem length to sleeve length to the size of the neck hole had specific measurements, and girls were constantly taken aside by teachers with measuring tape and gone over. They had specifics on everything from hair (must be shoulder length but not waist length, overly curly hair must be straightened!), to shirts (cannot reveal collarbone), to pants (no capris, must not drag on ground), to shorts (knee length or lower), to skirts (they gave specific hemline inches!), to shoes (no heels above one inch), to socks (no knee highs, those are provocative!), to the style of accessories we were allowed.
But no, go ahead and tell me that was super fair and the fact no one felt like they needed to police what the boys wore beyond their shirts and hair was completely legit.
Show Yahoo that we are OKAY with them buying Tumblr as long as they leave the current terms and conditions intact and the enforcement policy.
Aka, the site remains the EXACT same as it was before. Keep Tumblr the same Yahoo and we will stay.
i once had a guy/s tell me i was a lesbian feminist nazi just because i said something about exploitation of women in the media and how it was stupid woman weren’t allowed to breast feed in public and then they continued to say i was going to burn in hell and say homophobic remarks.i was 13 and in the closet at the time.
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One more reason to dislike the feminazi thing… It’s like when you compare civil rights to genocide it kind of makes you look like you don’t take genocide OR civil rights very seriously.
I need masculism because you silly, hysterical women need to realize my logic and moral standards are absolutely flawless and superior so you should always trust my judgment over your own.
Good to see this on Tumblr. There is a facebook and a petition!
[TW Abuse]
I once had a guy tell me that he only hit/pinched/slapped me because I wouldn’t hit back. Because I was too much of a pushover. This guy was supposed to be my best friend.
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I get this “I only bully you because you’re cute/easy to bully/a pushover” from guys constantly, and it is pretty much the number one way to instantly lose my friendship. If you think I’m some kind of ideal target for harassment, I don’t want you in my life.
I rang the literary editors of a few ‘respected’ papers and asked them how much space they were giving to women writers in their ‘review’ sections. Perfectly predictable response. They all said the allocation was fair. One said it was equal, and one prominent editor went so far as to say women are dominating the reviews!
… What happened when I asked who was doing the talking in mixed sex conversations? Well, it was the women of course. And then when you get to measure it you find that women get to talk about 10-20% of the time in conversations with men. A woman who talks about a third of the time is seen to be dominating the talk.
And what happened when I asked teachers who got their attention in class? Well, it was all equal, wasn’t it? No preferences there. And you measure it and find that girls get about 10-20% of the teacher’s attention. Any more, and the boys think it unfair - and go into revolt.
So what do you think I found with the reviews?
I would have predicted about 10-20% of the space went to women’s books. Well, it is less than 6% of the column inches. And the reasonable editor who thinks that women are getting more than their share is one of the worst offenders. Poor boys! It really tells you something when they think only 94% of the review section is not enough, doesn’t it? When 6% for women is too much you get some idea how much men think they are entitled to - as a fair deal.
” —Dale Spender, correspondence, in Dale and Lynne Spender, Scribbling Sisters (Camden Press, 1986), pp. 31-32 (via radtransfem)It’s recommending I change chrysacola to chrystal. :/ In what dictionary did they find that word?
Republican Texas judge orders lesbian couple to live apart or lose children
wow thanks i’m crying
WHITE PEOPLE COME GET YOUR BOY
Why as a white dude can you say the n-word?
Imma give you a quick synopsis of what I believe. If you took a kitten or a puppy or a baby, what have you, and threw it into the woods and leave it with a pack of wolves, and those wolves raise that kitten or that puppy, teach it how to hunt, how to live like a wolf, and you go back a couple years later and see that kitten or that puppy living with the wolves, hunting with them wolves, is family to them wolves. At night when the moon comes up and the wolves start howling, who are you to tell that kitten or that puppy that he can’t howl with them wolves? It’s definitely not me opening any doors or being like, “It’s okay for other people to do it,” it’s just me. If some white folks come around me and say “n****,” somebody fixin’ to get beat up. That’s just my personal thing. I’d never use it in a derogatory manner. It’s just like saying “my buddy,” or “my pal.”THIS IS THE WORST VERSION OF THE “I HAVE BLACK FRIENDS” EXCUSE I HAVE EVER SEEN
What in the name of black Jesus is this shit?
*sigh*
Hey, fellow white person.
No.
No.
The connection you drew between being raised by wolves and racial slurs was not only fucking ridiculous but also offensive.
There is one simple reason you may not use the n-word. Most POC agree that you cannot.
It is a word that has been used for centuries to dehumanize black people and justify such atrocities as slavery, lynchings, segregation (just to name a few).
The n word belonged to white people for a long time as a weapon. We cannot reclaim a word that our ancestors (and some of our modern fellows) used to treat people like shit just because of the color of their skin.
Only the oppressed group can reclaim a slur.
SO DO NOT USE THE N WORD K THANKS
What is it with this certain breed of white guys and the absolute need to have EVERYTHING?